None of us have the luxury of going back. We can only move forward. You’re lucky, though, because what exists in the forward is pretty amazing! But, it’s important that you remember a few things as you try to get there.
Realize that you’re beautiful just as you are. It isn’t about size or clothes or perception – it’s about what lies within. It’ll take many rough roads, constant changes of the numbers on the scale, and three babies before you realize that you’re enough just as you are. Accept yourself.
Trust your instincts. This will serve you well in both love and parenting. Don’t allow anyone else to tell you what is right for your children. You know in your gut what the right choices are and trusting that will create three amazing kids.
Don’t worry so much about love and fairy tales when you’re so young – you’ll just end up heartbroken. But I promise that, in the right time, the most amazing man will hold your hand, walk beside you, and love you unconditionally. He’ll know when to bring ice cream or when a bubble bath is needed. Just be careful of one thing: he’s a thief in the night with the bed covers.
You’ll push yourself with your education. It’ll be scary and stressful and make you want to quit. Don’t. Push through. Ask for help and accept it when it is offered. And, when that PhD is finally yours remember to thank those that helped get you there – each and every one of them.
Travel before you have kids. Be spontaneous with your husband and run away for a weekend. Take an actual honeymoon. And, when the kids arrive – take a family trip every year. Load up the car and just experience the joy of showing your kids the wonders of this world. And, bring the camera – you’ll want proof of those memories.
I can’t tell you much about what happens after the age of 32 – I’m still experiencing that part. But, I’d say that there are valuable adventures down the road – and the most wonderful husband and father waiting to grow old with you and experience it all.
p.s. Screw carpet – just get yourself the hardwood floors and save yourself the agony. Trust me.